ci(packager-windows): build for arm64 - fix cirrus script

chore(win): build 3.4.4-2

3.4.5 not yet avail

chore(win): set exe bit on gem executable

chore(osx): use xcode 16 for cirrus

deps(win): bump to ruby 3.3.5

macos: add xcode 15.4 sdk path

chore(deps): ruby 3.3.3

## fixes
- mini_portile2 pin to 2.8.6 due to errors in 2.8.7 on macos

## gem updates

rexml 3.3.0 (was 3.2.9)
stringio 3.1.1 (was 3.1.0)
nokogiri 1.16.6 (was 1.16.5)

osx: fixup build errors

chore: rm .ruby-version and revert bundler to 2.5.3

chore: rm .ruby-version and revert bundler to 2.5.3