[SPARK-21788][SS]Handle more exceptions when stopping a streaming query

[zsxwing]

What changes were proposed in this pull request?

Add more cases we should view as a normal query stop rather than a failure.

How was this patch tested?

The new unit tests.

[SparkQA]

Test build #80859 has finished for PR 18997 at commit 8aa3a29.

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[SparkQA]

Test build #80901 has finished for PR 18997 at commit 8aa3a29.

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[SparkQA]

Test build #81058 has finished for PR 18997 at commit bbb0b0e.

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• This patch adds no public classes.

[tdas]

LGTM. Merging to master.